12 Sep The Comparison Trap
Typically, at the end of my day, I’ll catch myself scanning through the Wodify app to see how everyone performed that day.
When people beat me in strength or in the metcon, I sometimes catch myself feeling down and defeated. I tell myself things like:
- I wish I was stronger
- I wish I could hit butterfly pull-ups like that
- I’m not as fast as him/her
- Why can’t I do that yet?
- I wish I was better at _____
Amidst all of the negativity in my mind, where is the positive? Where is the applause for myself for how hard I’ve been working? Where is the self-confidence in knowing I did my best and I am growing as an athlete and a person every single day?
I know I’m not the only one who experiences this.
The comparison trap is something that we can all do a better job of not falling into. Comparisons like…
- She’s stronger than me.
- He’s better than me.
- I’m not good at this.
- I’m not fast enough.
- I don’t feel like I’m getting better.
- I don’t feel like I’m losing any weight.
We all have insecurities, but let’s focus our thoughts on where we have grown; where our strengths reside. Focus on the things worth applauding, no matter how big or small.
Humor me for a moment. I bet if you took a look back a year ago to where you were physically and mentally, you have seen growth. Your strength has increased (yes, even 5lb PR’s matter). Your intensity in your metcons is higher. Your grit and resilience has grown, and you push yourself harder now than you did one year ago.
We can’t continue to allow ourselves to fall into the comparison trap. As we have stated many times before, continue to focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
Push as hard as YOU can.
Lift as heavy as YOU can.
Work as hard as YOU can.
If you do those things, you will see and experience success. You will see and experience growth. Instead of comparing yourself to another person, who you feel performed slightly better than you, praise them for their own accomplishments. They may be feeling the same insecurities that you are, and your encouragement to them may be the boost that helps them push through the next day.
Let’s continue to be a gym with a culture that is uplifting, encouraging, and pushes everyone to be the best version of themselves. Spread positivity!
Keep working hard!
– Coach Jessica